School break is upon us, and many of our families are looking forward to a week or two of vacation at our favorite beach or lake house. But how does an 8-month family trip around the world with your 7-year-old sound? To some, this might sound like a nightmare, but to these two dads, Trevor Burgess and Gary Hess, and their daughter Logan, it was the trip of lifetime!
They shared some of their favorite travel photos with us, gave us the highlights of their enviable vacation as well as offered some great advice to other gay dad families considering a trip around the world!
About Trevor and Gary
Trevor, 44, and Gary, 46, met 20 years ago at a Pride block party in Boston. They were married October 8, 2008, and became dads through adoption. They were lucky enough to be in the delivery room when their daughter Logan was born in 2009. They finalized her adoption four months later.
Gary is a stay-at-home dad and part-time realtor, and Trevor is a real estate developer and retired bank CEO. It was when his bank was sold in July 2016 that they were able to take time off and travel the globe. They were abroad from August 2016 to March 2017.
Oh, the Places You’ll Go
Using England as their base, they visited the Netherlands, Germany, Italy, Greece, Portugal, Sweden, Belgium, France, Denmark, Scotland, Singapore, Australia and New Zealand.
The family faves?
“New Zealand, the Netherlands, and England,” shared Gary. “New Zealand was beautiful and the people were extremely welcoming.We visited Auckland and Marlborough (wine!) but there is so much more we would like to see of the country.”
“The Netherlands is just lovely,” Gary added. “Amsterdam is a vibrant city filled with beauty and culture.”
Logan loved the gelato in Italy and the fairytale castles in Germany! But despite the weather, England was the family’s favorite, with endless things to do and see.
Traveling as a Family
“Our favorite thing about traveling with Logan first and foremost was the quality time we got to spend with her,” said Gary. “Visiting different countries and experiencing different cultures through her eyes was fascinating.”
But it wasn’t always smooth sailing traveling with a youngster, and the dads had to mindful of her limits and to make sure what they were interested in seeing, was also interesting for her.
“Museums don’t always hold the same appeal for children as they do for adults!” elaborated Gary. “We tried to find exhibits that would interest all three of us.”
As a gay dad family touring many countries, both Gary and Trevor can attest to not experiencing any hostility. They admit that they kept to fairly liberal countries with perhaps Singapore being the only outlier, but they experienced only hospitality towards their family.
5 Bits of Advice to Other Gay Dads Considering a Long Vacation
#1: “We used London as a base while in Europe. It was “home” so we didn’t have to take all our belongings every time we traveled to a different place.”
#2: “You have to find things to do that will interest your child. You won’t be happy if they’re not happy.”
#3: “Use a babysitter on occasion so you can have an adults night out or to do things you’ll enjoy but know your child won’t.”
#4: “If possible have friends and relatives visit you while you’re traveling. It’s a good reminder of home so it provides an added sense of stability for your kids.”
#5: “Find other kids for your child to play with. We went to lots of playgrounds throughout the world!”
I know our bags are packed! What about yours?
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