Last year, we featured a gay man named Richard and his son Jonathan in a “Then and Now” post on our site. Afterwards, Jonathan followed up with a touching letter to his dad, and all gay parents, that he asked us to publish. Enjoy the words from this remarkable young man below!


Having grown up with gay parents, I would like to give the parents that read this blog some advice.  

Your family is different from that of other families. When I was little I didn’t know what gay meant, so I looked it up in the dictionary. Every now and then I got made fun of by other kids for having gay parents. Dads, please do not rush and call the school principal every time your child comes home upset about an unhappy interaction because they will only get made fun of even more.

You cannot force people to like gays, but they will learn acceptance by seeing your family under regular circumstances. Your children will have to learn to stand up for their amazing family. As I got older, kids started to understand that gay was just a word, that it made no difference what type of parents you had.

Middle school was hard, but trust me, it will get better. Your children will just have to wait and see. When I was little, gay marriage was not legal, so people had very different perspectives about it. Now with gay marriage, having gay parents is much more common, but please remember not to embarrass your kids.

I am so thankful for being adopted and for the life that my dad has given me. He has worked so hard to provide for me and I can’t imagine my life without him. My greatest memories with my dad are from when we travel together. We had a great time this past summer traveling to Europe and I look forward to many more adventures.

Love you dad so much!

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Read more:

Life with a Newborn: Nick and Chris with Their Daughter Ari

Adoption of a Newborn: Gay Dads Brett and Jimmy

Life with a Newborn: Wes, Michael and Katie with Talulah