At Gays With Kids, inspiring dads and dads-to-be is our passion. On our Instagram page, we are constantly sharing stories of gay dad families with the intention of giving visibility and inspiring the next generation of gay dads. Check out some of the beautiful families we’ve showcased recently.
Jason & Patrick — Texas
Texas husbands Jason and Patrick are proud dads to two boys through adoption. 👨👨👦👦
“Having family members who formed families through adoption, we have seen firsthand how special and beautiful of a process it can be. It wasn’t easy and we had our share of heartbreak throughout the process, but it was all worth it in getting our boys!” 🫶
Like most new parents, these dads agree that those first few months of fatherhood are super challenging due to the lack of sleep. But then as their kids have gotten older, “we’d say [the hardest thing] is managing our time and energy to make sure we are being the best parents we can possibly be.”
But the good far outweighs the challenges. ⚖️
“The best part of fatherhood is it forces you to slow down and appreciate the world more in seeing and experiencing things through their eyes.” 🥰
For those considering a similar journey, Jason and Patrick say, “Make sure you and your partner are first in a good space in terms of your relationship. Speak with families who have gone through the process before, so you have a realistic idea of what to expect. Be patient with your spouse and give each other plenty of grace.” 💫
“Parenthood is not for the faint of heart, but it’s totally worth it!” 🙌
👉 @Wjjdiv
Robert — Los Angeles, California
Robert is excited to welcome a sibling for his 3-year-old son next month! 👨👦👦
“I always knew that giving Preston a sibling was in the cards. It might be challenging in the beginning, but it will be well worth it. I’m excited and can’t wait to meet my second son!” 💕
This LA family has had a difficult road for their second pregnancy: three failed embryo transfers, and then changing surrogates. “In the end the timing worked out with Preston’s surrogate who agreed to carry my second son, for which I am forever grateful.” 🫶
Over the past few months, Robert has been hinting to Preston that he will be having a brother. “One evening after story-time, he chuckled and said, ‘I’m having a little brother!’ It warmed my heart and solidified the decision to grow our family.” 🥰
“I know this is the beginning of a lifelong journey, but as anxious as I am, I’m more excited than ever for the privilege to be a dad of two.”
👉 @leeland15
Marcus & Peter — NYC, New York
Marcus and Peter’s journey to fatherhood started just a few days after their wedding. 👨❤️💋👨
“The first few weeks we didn’t want to tell anyone! We had a total of four IVF transfers, two ended up in miscarriage and one didn’t work at all. Our fourth produced our two little angels!” 👶👶
To others considering a surrogacy journey, the couple advises: “Be patient and know that eventually it’s going to happen. The best part about being a dad is being needed and caring for another human being. 💕
Above all, the dads advise all future fathers to have a strong support system. “You’ll need it!” 💯
👉 @pbzuk @twindaddiesnyc @mbenayon11
Eduardo & Geninho — Brazil
These dads adopted their first daughter six years ago. Then, last year, they adopted her four siblings. ❤️🏠
Eduardo and Geninho are two Brazilian dads 🇧🇷 who have been together for 15 years, and married for 10. Their decision to pursue an adoption journey was the result of “a lot of love and time to give.”
“Being a dad is a daily learning experience… overnight, we became a country of five children! So, we are learning every day.”
Their children range in age from one to 14 years old. While the journey at times has encountered conflict, the dads say they never had any doubts. “Adoption was the only way.” 🫶
“Be aware of your choice to be parents. A child needs a lot of love and attention, and demands a lot of your time. If you’re not prepared, it can be very painful and frustrating for both you and the child. So, make sure fatherhood isn’t just to fill a void, make sure you’re okay with it — go ahead and realize that love is the cure.”
👉 @paiciencianapratica
Colin & Ryan — Dallas, Texas
Colin and Ryan have some advice for others considering a similar path:
“Surrogacy is a lot. It can be very difficult, both emotionally and financially. It is not always the easiest journey. However, there are great resources to help, and the end result makes it 100% worth it. Watching our babies grow from tiny embryos to newborn babies to toddlers have been amazing! Fatherhood has been the greatest gift, and we are thankful for it every day.” 👨👨👧👦
👉 @cjashley109
