Gay dads Greg and Paul continue their story of foster-adopt.
There are almost half a million children in foster care in the United States alone. Many of these kids are hoping to find their forever family. In honor of National Adoption Month, we asked gay dads who adopted foster children to tell us about their families. We hope their words will inspire a new generation of gay men to create their families via the foster-adopt system.
In this penultimate installment of our series "Paths to Gay Fatherhood," David Dodge speaks with gay men who became dads for probably the most challenging but also the most rewarding category of children, those in foster care.
In the home study, a requisite part of every child placement, you can expect questions about upbringing, relationships, medical, mental health or legal history, employment and more. Our expert column takes the mystery out of the home study.
We received a letter from DCFS inviting us to a roller skating event for potential adoptive parents and potential adoptees. It specifically mentioned not to bring your own kids so they weren’t confused with children available for adoption. “Is this for real,” I wondered. “This really happens?”
All that stood between Jason P and a child was time. Time spent waiting for the social worker to call. Time spent dreaming about the possibilities. But mostly, it was just time waiting. And waiting. And waiting.
The question the adoption worker asked was: "Would you be open to parenting a child who identifies as LGBT?" Jason P and his husband gave an answer that has been haunting them ever since.
Foster-Adopt Series, Post 13. Determined to ace their Foster-Adopt home inspection, Jason and Eric childproofed their entire home with Tot-Loks. Tot-Loks on every cabinet door, Tot-Loks on every drawer.
Facing the daunting challenge of the foster-adopt home study, Jason P. makes an unexpected connection with the social worker.
By the time classes ended, our inner circle realized that we meant business and were serious about this whole “having a child” thing. Thankfully, the tone also began to change: words of support and encouragement began to pour in, which brought hope and light back into our lives.